Relationships, family, friendships, work, dating or simply life. Whatever is bothering you, write to Uncle Matt for a straightforward, considered answer.
We have been together for several years and things are generally good, but I feel as though I am always the one trying to make plans.
Wanting more from your shared life does not automatically mean there is something wrong with the relationship.
Tell me what is happening, what is bothering you and what you are struggling to work out. You can use a different name if you would rather stay anonymous.
Send your problemGive me enough background to understand the situation.
You do not need to use your real name.
Selected letters are answered and published in the Advice section.
Uncle Matt is a place for straightforward, thoughtful advice about the situations people find themselves in every day.
I am not here to pretend I have every answer. The aim is simply to look at a problem from another angle, say what I think and hopefully give you something useful to consider.
More about Uncle Matt →“We've been together for several years, but lately I feel as though I'm living my life on my own. Whenever I suggest going somewhere together, there always seems to be a reason not to.”
The real problem may not be where you are going. It sounds as though you are starting to feel alone inside the relationship, and that is the part worth addressing directly.
Messages have become shorter, plans keep changing and I don't know whether to ask what's wrong.
I'm always the person everyone calls when something goes wrong, and I'm starting to resent it.
The money is reasonable, but I dread going in and feel exhausted by the time I get home.
They disappear for days and then suddenly act as though nothing has happened.
You do not need to have everything worked out before you write. Tell me what is happening, what is bothering you and anything you think is important to know.
Write as much or as little as you need. The important part is giving enough context for me to understand the problem.
You do not need to use your real name. Identifying details can also be removed before anything is published.
Selected letters will be answered by Uncle Matt and published as advice posts for others who may be facing something similar.
Uncle Matt is a place for straightforward, thoughtful advice about the situations people find themselves in every day.
I am not here to pretend I have every answer. The aim is simply to look at a problem from another angle, say what I think and hopefully give you something useful to consider.
More about Uncle Matt