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Relationships

My partner never wants to go anywhere with me

“We've been together for several years, but lately I feel as though I'm living my life on my own. Whenever I suggest going somewhere together, there always seems to be a reason not to.”

Matt says

The real problem may not be where you are going. It sounds as though you are starting to feel alone inside the relationship, and that is the part worth addressing directly.

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Friendship

I think my best friend is avoiding me

Messages have become shorter, plans keep changing and I don't know whether to ask what's wrong.

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Family

My family expect me to solve everything

I'm always the person everyone calls when something goes wrong, and I'm starting to resent it.

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Work

Should I leave a job that makes me miserable?

The money is reasonable, but I dread going in and feel exhausted by the time I get home.

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Dating

Why do they only contact me when it suits them?

They disappear for days and then suddenly act as though nothing has happened.

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